Category: Inspire Your Own Journey

You Shouldn’t Feel Ashamed Talking about IVF

by Dr Agilan Arjunan , Fertility Specialist & Gynaecologist , KL Fertility Centre ( Malaysia)

“You need an IVF ?? ! “

Common reaction from those around you if you ever mention that you need an IVF to get pregnant.

The year is 2018 and yet we do not openly speak about IVF . Infertility and especially male infertility is still buried in shame.

This even happens in western countries such as USA.

Couple should not be ashamed or embarrassed when speaking about the need for fertility treatment, especially an IVF.

We are not ashamed when talking about diabetes or high blood pressure or any other medical condition. In fact we encourage those patients to deal and treat  their illness .

Why can’t we do the same when it comes to infertility ? ??

Wait for my article , in which I will be discussing about this “taboo’ topic of IVF stigma .

Read this :

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/chrissy-teigen-ivf-instagram-john-legend-luna-miles-in-vitro-fertilisation-a8418911.html

Fertility & Gynaecology E-newsletter : Vol 1 (April 2017)

by Dr Agilan Arjunan, Fertility Specialist , KL Fertility Centre ( Malaysia)

This is the first volume of my fertility & gynaecology e-newsletter .

Click here to download pdf version : With Dr A newsletter (pdf).

The full article written in the e-newsletter can be read here : https://dragilan.com/2017/02/24/difficult-second-pregnancy-dr-agilan-arjunan-fertility-specialist-kl-fertility-centre-malaysia/

 

I can’t have sexual intercourse (Vaginismus)

Inspiration 1 :

This couple came to see me on a busy clinic day on a Saturday.

Since Saturday is a half day clinic, usually the flow of patients are quite fast. They came into the room and we greeted each other. However, I noticed that they appear a bit nervous. “Probably their first visit to a fertility clinic” I thought to myself.

“Hi, good morning . I’m Dr Agilan. How can I help you ?”. 

“Doc, we have difficulty having sex for the past 5 years”, said the wife. Husband just looked at me.

I stopped and adjusted my posture. I thought to myself, ” This couple needs help and I am not going to rush them through, even if its a Saturday”.

They have been married for 5 years now. They are both 38 years of age and this the first marriage for both of them. They have been unable to have penetrative sexual intercourse.

“I feel pain during penetration, I become very anxious and tighten up involuntarily. I have tried to relax but I can’t. I tend to push him away without me realising it ” she said as she looked at her husband.

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