Hope for New Year : 2018

by Dr Agilan Arjunan, Fertility Specialist & Gynaecologist , KL Fertility Centre ( Malaysia)

Published in The Star Newspaper ( Fit For Life) https://www.star2.com/health/2018/03/10/theres-always-hope/

“The time is always right to do what is right” , “ Time waits for no one” , “ It takes time to build a castle” .

There are many proverbs about time . One thing for sure, time does fly and it’s already 2018 !

Time can be your good friend or enemy. For those with family and children, it’s fun to watch your little ones grow.

For those who are in the midst of their parenthood journey , time can be their greatest fear with each passing year.

There are many couples who kept their hopes high and persisted in their journey towards parenthood. They did achieve their goal .

I’m going to share some spirit-lifting real patient’s journey which will inspire your own journey.

Vaginismus

Mr & Mrs Jacob (not their real name) walked into my consultation room sometime in the late 2016.

They were a bit hesitant when they walked into my room. They slowly took their seats . They looked at each other probably deciding ‘who’ and ‘how’ to start the conversation.

I broke the silence by greeting them first ,“ Good morning, how can I help you?”

“ Doc, we have been married for 7 years,” the husband started. “We have not got a child yet” .

“ Have you both done any fertility test?” I asked.

Both of them looked at each other. It took a few seconds before his wife finally started talking.

“ We have not managed to have sex since our marriage” his wife said with some difficulty.

“ Well, if that’s the main reason, then the treatment is very easy !” I said with enthusiasm.

I could see that they both couldn’t believe my reply. 

“Really, doc? We thought we had a major issue” said the wife.

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I can’t have sexual intercourse (Vaginismus)

Inspiration 1 :

This couple came to see me on a busy clinic day on a Saturday.

Since Saturday is a half day clinic, usually the flow of patients are quite fast. They came into the room and we greeted each other. However, I noticed that they appear a bit nervous. “Probably their first visit to a fertility clinic” I thought to myself.

“Hi, good morning . I’m Dr Agilan. How can I help you ?”. 

“Doc, we have difficulty having sex for the past 5 years”, said the wife. Husband just looked at me.

I stopped and adjusted my posture. I thought to myself, ” This couple needs help and I am not going to rush them through, even if its a Saturday”.

They have been married for 5 years now. They are both 38 years of age and this the first marriage for both of them. They have been unable to have penetrative sexual intercourse.

“I feel pain during penetration, I become very anxious and tighten up involuntarily. I have tried to relax but I can’t. I tend to push him away without me realising it ” she said as she looked at her husband.

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